Below is the final layout.
We are going with white shaker style cabinets and gold drawer pulls. We decided on white corara marble countertops (or something like them) and a simple white subway tile backsplash. These are a few pictures for inspiration:
For appliances we decided to go with a gas stove top, with an oven below. A white wooden range hood and a separate range microwave build in on the other side of the kitchen. We both really like the side by side fridge, as apposed to a bottom pull out freezer drawer, and we decided to upgrade the sink to a kohler apron sink. Not quite as deep as a farmhouse, but the same look and feel.
Our bar will extend into our dining area now and give us 3 spaces for barstools. We did not want an elevated bar because I really wanted this space to be as open as possible. Also, with children - 2 extra feet is a big drop to the floor - just saying'. It happens - trust me. This is an inspiration picture for our bar to dining transition.
A fun feature our contractor added was a built in beverage fridge for wine, beer or kiddos drinks. It sits just to the side of the refrigerator.
We will have recess lighting in the kitchen, with two pendant lights above the bar. Still waiting to pick those out.... I just can't decide.
We did have to close-off a window in the kitchen - where the range and hood will go. But it made the most sense in the long run and allowed us to do so much more with the small space we had. It's not a small kitchen, but it's certainly not huge.
This was a picture taken of the kitchen yesterday:
Updates: Plumbing is in, hardwoods are laid, and electric is run. City inspection is today.